10 things to do when you’re on your own
1. Love yourself first. Romance your own mystical soul.
2. Take long baths. Buy fresh flowers. Dance in your living room. Ask yourself on a date. Buy the good wine.
3. Call in your people, gather them around you and let them love you up good.
4. Get comfortable with Saturday morning solitude and mowing your own lawn.
5. Catch the eyes of a stranger in a coffee shop. smile and look away, and then look back – knowing you are fully free to do so.
6. Share your body and heart and soul on your terms and your timeline and with gratitude and reverence for your sovereign right to choose.
7. Trust yourself to know what is true for you, even if it is exactly the opposite of what your mom or your best friend says, or what I’ve said here.
8. Know that in the end, there is nobody who can live this life but you. It is all yours. Every last bit.
9. Leave or stay. Say yes or no. Feel the heat and the heart and the lonely and the grief. Trust you will live through this exactly as you should.
10. Know you’ll navigate this time with a beauty and grace and fierce wisdom that will amaze even you. And it will be perfectly, exactly right.