Tell the truth: how many times has someone told you “My god, you need to write a book”? How many times have you thought it yourself? How often do you lay awake at night, dreaming of seeing your words laid out on the page? How many times have you wondered...
Dear one. This is not an easy world in which to live as the owner of a hopeful heart. Not an easy time to build a home safe enough to hold the immensity of your own tenderness. The last few years were not so much built for believing. And yes, I know,...
Two years and a thousand lifetimes ago today I was getting on the plane to Scotland. I was 44 years old and had never traveled outside North America, let alone traveled for longer than a weekend fully on my own. I had no idea then that the world would implode...
No more apologies. Not one more. You are not on this earth to be a living apology. None of us are. Yes. We fuck up. Every last one of us. And yes, there is grounding to be found in committing to the hard and holy work of trying to make it...
Get quiet love. Get real quiet. I know you’re exhausted and frazzled and ten different kinds of underwater and upside down. It’s go-go-go and don’t you dare stop and keep all the balls in the air all the time and frantic tears at midnight and a longing for...
Today I woke up early. I sleep naked and the morning light in my room is some kinda heaven. I was walking around making the bed before getting dressed and caught sight of myself in the mirror and, for once, was filled with a rush of kindness.Not critique of the...
Where are you still waiting for permission? To leave, to run, to quit, to stop, to yell, to get angry, to rejoice, to dance, to sing, to fuck, to break, to mend, to come undone, to end, to begin, to scream, to cast spells, to call in what you want, to lay it all down,...
We humans, we are needy as fuck. It’s how we’re made. But somewhere along the way, we buy into the idea that we shouldn’t need so much. Shouldn’t want so hard. Put on the armor.Place another brick on the wall.Practice your poker face.Never let ’em see you sweat....
Once upon a time I got embroiled in the comments section of a thread written by a woman I admired. She railed against polyamory as trauma bonding, no different from humans who enjoy a ‘vending machine of lovers’ and avoiding real connection — claiming that ‘sacred...
Have you seen the movie “Where’d You Go, Bernadette”? I love this film. Aside from the fact that Cate Blanchette is most certainly forever my Personal Icon Of Style and unknowing Official Third Wife (following Kate McKinnon and Brandi Carlile), her character...
“All day long I expendI hold together, I lift up, I give outI pour life for the food supply, irrigate crops in my mouthIt is a rare occasion where I just take in.”Lauren Zuniga, Submissive. Dear Human You are allowed to receive. No. You don’t have to have a counter...
Listen. If you’re feeling tender this morning, just let yourself be tender. If life feels a little rough or raw around the edges, don’t try to soften yourself to make the others more comfortable. If your skin feels like it’s on inside out, wrap yourself in your...
No new years resolutions for me this year.No flowery poetry.No broad declarations or rash promises or wild intentions.Not a single promise to the universe or to another. Just my own prescription for wholeness.By me. For me. Nothing but a steady reminder & a wild...
This is a shout out to my fellow single parents out there… This shit is hard. I want to write something eloquent and heartfelt with a side of gentle humor. But I can’t really muster that right now. And also, I’m thinking that instead of waiting for me to...
truth: pleasure is the *ultimate* muse. Tell me this:When is the last time you felt good? Really good. Down to your bones. When did you last taste your own ecstasy, take it into your mouth and swallow it into your being? How long has it been since your skin sang a...
REPEAT AFTER ME: I am entirely badass even in the midst of all this clusterfuckery. Today we are going to own that, you and I. We have to. We need to. We deserve to. Because core woundings are hella brutal. Because uncertainty is a mother fucker. Because...
“Well-behaved women seldom make history.”Laurel Thatcher Ulrich I’m not interested in reading about “well behaved” women. No nice girls for me. Give me your outcasts and your witches. Your dykes and your butches and every last one who refused to conform to the...
Imagine you showed up at my door, and it wasn’t the before time when we didn’t know, or the now time when we still don’t, but the mysterious after we can only imagine, when we’ll finally have something solid to rest inside. What if you came to me then, in the after....
“She was inexperienced enough to assume what they had was love because she wanted him, and want can be a hundred times stronger than need, and a thousand times stronger than common sense… Desire, if handled incorrectly, could become a curse” Magic Lessons –...
“Everything about her seems to be saying, Listen, if you don’t look attentively, if you don’t go beyond my simplicity to detect the simmering volcano in me, you are not it.” Rawi Hage, Carnival They come for me seeking a one-dimensional cardboard cutout...
Où il y a de la gêne, il n’y a pas de plaisirWhere there is shame, there is no pleasure. This is what I know to be true: 1. Your body is a good, good body and infinitely worthy of worship. 2. Pleasure is your birthright and the doorway...
“Don’t you DARE settle”, he said to me last night, his eyes suddenly fierce and locked on mine from across the table. We were eating thin-crust pizza with some sort of sweet potato-goat cheese hipster toppings, along with some insanely delicious roasted brussel...
Has anyone ever tried to convince you that fashion was frivolous? That self-expression through clothes or makeup or accessories was a waste of time? That your selfies were a desperate grasp for validation? That feeling beautiful or sexy or just damn good in your own...
How can you love me, let me count the ways… Good morning texts. When I roll over, blurry from sleep and still staggering the divide between dreams and reality, and reach for my phone to silence my alarm, I want to see your name. I want to know that of all the...
Hey you, If you’re alone tonight and you don’t want to be —come join me in the togetherness we can always find when we stare up at the wisdom of the same bright moon. You whisper her your secrets, and I will whisper her mine, and she’ll hold them...
